8 FEMDOM Ideas to Dominate Your Submissive

If your goal is to dominate your submissive, here are 8 FEMDOM (Female Domination) ideas to make it happen.

1. Make your cuckold watch the scene from outside the house

The idea is simple and direct: send your husband outside while you enjoy your lover’s big cock. Your cuckold is only allowed to watch through the window and cannot participate.

This works on several levels. First, you are denying him the pleasure of watching up close, which he undoubtedly enjoys. You are also making him hide outside like a perverted voyeur, hoping nobody catches him, especially if he masturbates while watching. He may not be able to resist.

2. Make your submissive swallow his own semen

Some men get turned on by the idea of swallowing their own semen, but only before they have an orgasm. Once they reach climax, all that desire disappears. You can keep humiliating your cuckold by making him consume his semen every time he orgasms.

You need no reason beyond the fact that he is a cuckold, you are his wife, and this is what you want. He may argue, but he will have to give in if he wants to ejaculate again. He wants you to have sex with other men, and he wants to be rewarded with the chance to lick your pussy. Make it clear that if he does not drink his semen after every orgasm, he gets none of those things. Before long, your husband will become your little bitch.

3. Re-create your wedding night, with your lover fucking you

If possible, rent the same room where you spent your wedding night. If it still fits, put on your wedding dress and the same lingerie you wore then. Re-enact the part where you and your husband entered the hotel room. From that point on, everything changes:

Have your lover wait in the room. Put your cuckold in his place immediately. Tell him that your lover will be the first to fuck your married pussy because your husband’s cock is too small to satisfy you — or for whatever reason you prefer.

From there, use your imagination. You could make your cuckold sleep on the floor while your lover sleeps in the bed with you. You could make him service both of you orally. You could fuck him with a strap-on. The possibilities are endless, and all of them are humiliating for your cuckold.

4. Tell one of your friends that your husband’s cock does not satisfy you

This is dangerous territory, so I certainly do not recommend it for everyone. Still, telling a close friend about your husband’s small cock or his lack of skill in bed can be deeply humiliating. Your cuckold obviously needs to know that you shared this information, but make sure he can handle it and will not be emotionally crushed by it.

If he can manage that kind of humiliation, consider doing it while you are all in the same room. Make him sit and listen while you tell your friend that your husband cannot please you in bed or does not have a cock large enough to fill you the way you want.

5. Make your cuckold masturbate with a condom filled with your lover’s semen

First, enjoy having sex with your lover. Take your time and make it especially exciting for your cuckold. If you trust him to masturbate without coming, let him do so. This works best when he is very aroused as you offer him the condom.

After your lover ejaculates into the condom, carefully remove it and offer it to your husband. Do not tell him about your plans beforehand. The surprise will make it even more humiliating.

This time, if he wants to reach orgasm, he will have to put on the used condom and masturbate with your lover’s cum. There is a good chance he will do it without hesitation.

6. Make him put your lover’s cock inside you

This is also known as bull wrangling. When you and your lover are ready to fuck, make your cuckold guide his cock into you. Get into position and order your cuckold to hold your lover’s cock and place it at the entrance to your pussy. Tell him “good cuckold” when he has completed the task. You can also make him do it several times during the same fuck. With every change of position, call your cuckold over to put his lover’s cock inside you again. He will love it.

7. Give your cuckold cock-flavored kisses

Invite your husband to kneel with you in front of your lover. Make him watch while you give your lover a sensual, sexy blowjob. Show him how much you love sucking your lover’s big cock. Then take your mouth off your lover’s thick cock and share a long, deep French kiss with your cuckold. Ask him, “Do you like the way his cock tastes?”

This is especially interesting for couples who have not yet explored bisexuality — or who will never cross that line. Watching you eagerly devour another man’s cock is humiliating enough; making him share a kiss immediately afterward doubles those feelings.

8. Have one of your best friends watch your husband while you fuck your lover

This is an incredible form of humiliation that requires a willing accomplice who is ready to join your games. It can be a man, of course. Invite that friend over to watch your husband while you fuck your lover. It works best if you have a reason. The simplest is to say that you do not trust him not to masturbate while you are away. Your friend will be there to make sure he is a good boy all night.

If you want to deepen the humiliation, have your friend tease your cuckold: “What does it feel like knowing your wife is being fucked by a bigger, better cock right now, cuckold?” It is an effective question that will put him in a deeply humiliating situation. Ask your friend to make clear that you have told them all about how good your lover is in bed and how much better he is than your cuckold husband.

I hope you found these FEMDOM ideas interesting. Now it is your turn to put them into practice. This article is part of a series about dominant women and female-led relationships; explore the related articles below for more ideas.

Last updated: March 2026.